Social Networking is a big topic, but just saying things will not bring you the objectives you are after. On the contrary - you may damage your realtionships - not grow them.. Here are some tips:
© Talk with people, not at them. - As a first step to encourage response, form a picture of your listener (or imagine them if you know them) and use this to remove the feeling of talking to a disembodied voice.
© Remember to listen. - Don't talk all the time. You cannot talk and listen simultaneously.
© Clarify as you proceed. Ask questions, check back as you go along -it may appear impolite to ask later.
© Maintain a two-way flow. - Do not interrupt, let them finish each point - but make sure, if -they are talking at some length, that they know you are listening. Say 'Yes' or 'That's right' to show you are still there.
© Concentrate. - Shut out distractions, interruptions and 'noises off'. It may be apparent to your listener if you are not concentrating on him - it will appear as lack of interest.
© Do not over react. - It is easy to jump to conclusions or make assumptions about a person you cannot see - resist this temptation.
© 'Read between the lines.' - Do not just listen to what is said, but also what is meant. Make sure you catch any nuance, observe every reaction to what you are saying.
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